Since I was a little girl I always imagined i would be a parent ,but beyond thinking I might try to do things differently from my mother I didn't expect the huge identity crisis and sense of despair that I experienced as a new parent. (I have a blog post What I Wanted to do Differently from my Mother and Why I might have been Wrong (again)))
expect that when the time came and i did have some children a lot of the things she had said and done just seemd natural even though I had had no preparation. What else do we do in life that demands so much of us yet for which there is so little preparation - and so little value of the job in society at large. It struck me as odd to have a job whihc is so impoartnat with out any recognition of how hard it can be!
This blog stareted as I wrote thigns donw to try and make sense of my experiences. I felt very undersupported as a parent but also very lucky as I was able to enjoy spending time with my children. I ran communicatoins workshops for NGOs in Kampala and in Asmara worls I ran a small pre-school in Entebbe for a number of yearsbut only very part time and often ion jobs where I was working alongside my children in art of theatre workshiops.
As we moved from ocuntry to country people came and went and the good friends Ihad formed and became separated and I stareted to notice that a mobile life doesn;t suit everyone the same - and there are v ery tdifferent phases of growing up that I also learned about this thing called coaching - my husvannd and alsmost evertyone I knew with an office job was being given coahcing and they all seemed to be loving it - feel energised and purposeful and more enganged. I htioght to myself I coulduse osme of that m=for my work at home!
I stsrted a facebook page when i founded FamilyMattersCoaching in 2013 which is now called TheLonely parent - you can look at that here
But for many reasons I plan to move away from Facebookand I will be writing my thoughts about family life here instead.
I will be reccommneding podcasts and blogs and books that i and my clients have found to be really helpful. Feel free to contact me with comments and questions! I will NOT do a newsletter - (see my blog about Why I will NOT do a newsletter) and I will not be posting many pictures. The onle above is of me with my day old first baby boy. He was born at sun set in a small hospital clinic in the outskirts of Kamapala. A big strom came through shortly after and the electricity was knocked out. The hosiptal had sbackup lighting :ome small lights powered by car batteries. I'll never forget how as I held this sgtrange new b eing in my arms he watched rain drops sliding down the wondow pains with his new born eyes - he probably couldn't see much but being mesmerised by the fat drops of tropical rain glittering in the flickeing neon light was certainly a great welcome to the world!
Watching him watching the rain made me realise that even tiny babies can see magical things and respond to them with awe.
I learnt and still learn a lot about the awesmeness of life from my kids.
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